Normally, I love playdates. But our last one? I found a fresh snipped piece of hair on a pair of kids' scissors. I know that sounds a little psycho. But I just happened to be making these gift baskets and there it was, a clip of hair on the cellophane. After questioning my newly minted 7-year-old, she confessed "the truth" that her "friend" chased her around the playroom with scissors, than "accidentally" cut her hair.
Uhh. How do you accidentally cut someone's hair?
And yes, I was present. No, I was not hovering in the room. Judge me if you must.
This is the same "friend" who hit, punched and pinched little k on the school bus. I contacted the school. It was reported to the principal, but evidently not to the parents.
This is the same "friend" who wants to know if little k is wearing underwear. Yeah. I witnessed that one. And apparently this wasn't the first time. Little k is apparently not wearing one of her fun skirts because this girl kept trying to lift it up to see if she was wearing underwear.
This same "friend" has taken a toy hammer and damaged my 100 year old interior doors trying to get into E's bedroom.
Need I say, I'm not a fan of the "friend".
There has been no love since the day little k and this girl have met, in fact.
Thank God. She's a disaster.
Out of genuine disgust and utter frustration, I blurted out, after she left and I found the snipped hair, that she was no longer welcome for playdates. Immediately, I realized my girls were in ear shot and I imagined them blabbing to her or her sister. CRAP!
It sucks when you like the parents and you don't like the kids. But, I'm done with this girl. I don't want her in my house or around my kids.
The funny thing is that as I was telling this story to a coworker, it occurred to me... I wasn't the angel growing up.
I'll wait until the shock of the news subsides.
My coworker, however, was shocked. You?!, she said. Such a good girl??
Then, of course, I wondered about the perspective people have of me.
But that's a whole other post.
Regardless, I was the kid who (theoretically) chased friends with scissors. I was the kid who experimented. I pushed the boundaries. And I dragged my friends along with me.
One of my oldest friend's mom's now enjoys sharing the story of the time when I, because I felt wronged, decided to pick every last one of her homegrown tomatoes and chuck them down her cellar. Every. Single. Tomato.
Anger issues, anyone?
Another time, I encouraged my friends to build a fort. Our parents thought we were so creative and resourceful.
Until they realized we were smoking cigarette butts in there.
Regardless, I turned out fine. I'm not perfect. I still can't sit still. I still like an adventure.
So do I emphathize with the girl, or eliminate the playdate?